I have been disturbed by the amount of people that often believe that if they are in a relationship, whether long or short term, it is ok to carry on an "emotional" connection with another person online. Why do so many people constitute cheating as only a physical act? Whether you are straight or gay carrying on an online relationship is cheating.
An article on World of Psychology (http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/03/23/does-the-internet-promote-or-damage-marriage/) illustrates many of the problems that occur when online affairs are acted upon in a committed relationship. The article discusses how online affairs effect a marriage, but I don't think it just applies to a marriage. What is a marriage? It is nothing more than a commitment by one individual to another individual. That is a relationship. Two people in a committed relationship should, but often don't, consider themselves married.
I believe carrying on in an "emotional" relationship, is cheating. If your partner is not meeting your emotional needs, then communication is required between you and your spouse. Be honest with yourself first and figure out what it is you want to convey before starting your conversation so as to not be accusatory. I have made the mistake of speaking before thinking and being accusatory. The conversation will go bad, trust me. Here is another article that will help you plan how you want to say what it is you want to say: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/rediscovering-love/201104/unequal-appetites
Don't turn to someone else, its just not worth it. If the person you are with is not what it is you want then end the relationship before starting a new one. Cheating is never acceptable.
An article on World of Psychology (http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/03/23/does-the-internet-promote-or-damage-marriage/) illustrates many of the problems that occur when online affairs are acted upon in a committed relationship. The article discusses how online affairs effect a marriage, but I don't think it just applies to a marriage. What is a marriage? It is nothing more than a commitment by one individual to another individual. That is a relationship. Two people in a committed relationship should, but often don't, consider themselves married.
I believe carrying on in an "emotional" relationship, is cheating. If your partner is not meeting your emotional needs, then communication is required between you and your spouse. Be honest with yourself first and figure out what it is you want to convey before starting your conversation so as to not be accusatory. I have made the mistake of speaking before thinking and being accusatory. The conversation will go bad, trust me. Here is another article that will help you plan how you want to say what it is you want to say: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/rediscovering-love/201104/unequal-appetites
Don't turn to someone else, its just not worth it. If the person you are with is not what it is you want then end the relationship before starting a new one. Cheating is never acceptable.
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